There is not any one I know that doesn’t have questions about their loved one when there loved one is in therapy or in treatment. It’s natural to want to reach out and talk with your loved one’s counselor -to know what is going on.

Do any of these thoughts sound familiar?

  • I wish I knew what was going on in my loved ones counseling
  • I wonder what they are saying about me
  • I wish I could talk regularly with the counselors
  • If I don’t talk and share my side of the story, they really wont know what is going on
  • I am not sure I can trust my teen, my young adult, my older adult, parent, spouse, partner etc to tell the truth
  • I am not convinced that my loved one will bring up the really important things they need to
  • I knew I should of ask for a progress only consent form first – A progress only consent form allows the outside party to lean if their loved one is doing what they are suppose to be doing, attending groups, working on issues. It does protect the ILO Identified Loved one in the respect that they are able to share inner most thoughts with their counselors, work on their issues and know that this material unless it violates DUTY to Warm rules and regulations will not be shared unless agreed upon by counselor and the individual

In almost any situation including your loved one is best for confidentiality with your loved one’s Counselor. This will

  • Protect the therapeutic alliance your loved one has with the team so therapy will work
  • Prevent replicating an unhealthy family dynamic such as triangulation in family work
  • Reduce the risk of your loved one albeit teen, young adult, adult etc for blaming you for violating their confidentiality
  • Teach the client how to be their own advocate while rebuilding trust in the family unit
  • Prevent the counselor(s) from burning out so they can be effective in doing their jobs

Many times my team serves as an outside case manager with families being on team calls with the behavioral health designated representatives as well as being available to all family members. As I wrote Family work takes many different forms from meeting all participants individually, to sometimes working in smaller groups, to doing 2-3 day family intensives. The goal is always to respect the dignity of all participants to develop healthy and compassionate boundaries, to allow loved ones to experience their behaviors. You can learn more about Solution Focused Coaching here.