This year the biggest lesson I have learned is Letting go. If I grip tight onto what I have and am in fear of losing whatever that is, I end up blocking myself from receiving massive gifts of Abundance. Practicing abundance as a meditation, just like practicing a daily gratitude list has changed my orientation. In other words, I allowed change, embraced the pivot and have seized opportunities being presented.
If I can do this so can you and your clients, families and loved ones. You can begin the shift right now.
First start with decluttering, not just what is in front of you, do the spaces underneath your bed, above the countertops as well, the boxes in your garage
Preparing for our move, I embraced the physical decluttering of our spaces with a vengage. We gave away, sold and consigned that which we could not take. My famed Buddah went safely to a treatment center where it could hold space for the weary souls that passed by. I clean closets and gave away clothing that had long worn out memories of days and events gone by.
With the help of my husband we decluttered our physical space with love and acumen, making sure our belongings ultimately part of ourselves went to good homes.
Physical decluttering was much easier than the mental habit of cluttering my brain with worst case scenarios that I am not good enough and fear of what might happen was much harder than I imagined.
Through my 74 years I have learned that letting go often makes room for miracles. Over my lifetime, facing sudden deaths, changing careers, jobs, activities and people who didn’t help me feel like a better person anymore make tremendous difference in how I see the world. I learned when I sit around and just think about letting go I catastrophize and when I actually take action and tuck fear away the outcomes are so much better. One of my favorite sayings is “Courage is fear that says its prayers and I certainly did walk through my hearts this past year while writing a book, sitting glued to my office chair while my husband was hospitalized twice.
My team mate , Shayne Anderson helped me. He suggested I try Deepak Chopra’s 21 days of abundance and that helped me tremendously turn my attitude and kaldeiscope around. So, then when life presents changes, struggles, problems and those seemingly impossible moments , I now focus myself on seeing opportunities for awareness, for letting go, for surrender, for curiosity, for learning, for god-shots and for miracles.
So letting go can be physical and can be spiritual
“In the process of letting go, you will lose many things from the past, but you will find yourself.” –Deepak Chopra
Part of this letting go process can be jarring, confusing. How? Where to begin? The best way is to take steps so you let go of what doesn’t serve you as you begin to serve your heart with the happiness you truly deserve.
Here are 30 ways you can let go
1. Watch and Be in Nature. Concentrate on the opening of flowers, the smell of earth, feel of the ocean and allow perspective to settle in.
2. Talk to an old person about what’s important in life. 80+ years later, they usually have a better view of what to focus your energy on.
3. Let go of all thoughts that make you feel small and listen to the ones that empower you.
4. Get rid of any guilt, especially in achieving your goals or doing something you truly want to do.
5. Do something nice or surprise someone you love like your spouse or lover. The more you give unconditionally to the person you have the most expectations from, the more you will feel freedom in your heart.
6. Release your fears, all of them. Fear of the unknown, of the future, of the larger picture. Fear is a block in your so-called life path. Walk down it and let things fall into place.
7. Don’t regret a thing. Remember, there are no regrets in life, just lessons learned.
8. Stop worrying about what’s not in your control.Practice the Serenity Prayer
9. Instead of doubting where you are in life, ask yourself where you want to go.
10. Remember that blaming anyone or something else will never change anything. If you don’t like something, you have two choices, accept it or change it yourself.
11. Turn off the noise and feelings of unworthiness. You are not damaged, you matter and the world needs you, just the way you are.
12. Dance daily, Sing in the Shower and freely, as the good ol’ saying goes, ‘like no one is watching.’ Boogie down with truth.
13. Remember that your dreams matter. Chase them.
14. Put yourself first.
15. Forget about where everyone else is, how happy they are, what they are doing better than you. Your journey is going to right where you need to be, and it will be your version of perfect.
16. Remember that nothing is perfect.
17. There’s no right or wrong way, for anything. Life is rich and full of contrast, explore and enjoy it.
18. Let go of your expectations of people, things, places, events. Be present and it will feel just right, whatever and wherever it is.
19. Turn off the old record of your past. Sing a new song.
20. Don’t sweat the small stuff, but rather, enjoy the little things in life.
21. Observe life through the eyes of a child. Pure joy.
22. Release anger towards friends family, lovers…past and current. Forgive them, and feel the happiness you deserve.
23. Let go of the demands to do, do, do. Do what you can, and call it your best, instead of needing to constantly do more.
24. Express gratitude, always.
25. You don’t have to nor will you know everything. Part of the fun is learning on the way.
26. Money can’t buy happiness. Find ways to pay off your debt so instead of focusing on the moola, you can focus on the true abundance of life and many fruits you already have.
27. Your eyes will always remain down if you feel sorry for yourself. Shift your view towards the sky.
28. Work on yourself and as Gandhi says, be the change you wish to see in the world.
29. Stop trying to please everyone to be liked or accepted. You are you: unique and be true to that.
30. Don’t be a hater…especially of yourself. Love every inch of your body, every amazing way you shine in this world and find freedom in loving yourself, just as you are.