Death

Death

Nothing prepared me for April 20, 1996. It was the day after Easter a supposed time of resurrection and goodness. Instead, my husband was DOA after sliding backwards into the center divide in his brand new (with not a scratch on it) Infiniti. Two days before after...
Different Types of Grief & How To Deal With Them

Different Types of Grief & How To Deal With Them

What is Grief Grief is the natural reaction to losing something  Speaking Grief offers a wonderful website and resource which you can find here. Types of  Grief Anticipatory Grief Expecting loss or change can lead to anticipatory grief. With it, “we end up...
How Families Cope After Suicide

How Families Cope After Suicide

When I was 7, my father died by suicide. To say I was traumatized to learn that he hung himself with a tie would be an understatement.  My mother, also experiencing this trauma, had no place where she could share her loss and the feelings of guilt and shame and anger...
September Is National Suicide Prevention Month

September Is National Suicide Prevention Month

Funny how we delegate days and months to certain causes. The truth is that every day should be a suicide prevention day. Sadly, death by suicide is among the leading causes of death overall in the United States. There are, on average, 123 suicides each day. It is the...
How to Address Holiday Grief and Loss in COVID-19

How to Address Holiday Grief and Loss in COVID-19

When Deidre Boyd asked me to write a short essay on the holiday grief and loss in Covid 19, I was humbled, yet I wondered how long-winded me could write a brief article. As Deidre knows I am not a newcomer to death having experienced five sudden deaths in my lifetime...
I Am Missing You

I Am Missing You

This morning I woke up thinking about all of you dear ones and how I am missing you. I am missing not seeing you in person, hugging you, grabbing a cup of coffee, a cool green juice, taking a walk, laughing with you, and just being in your presence, even for a...
Travel – Trauma – Triumph

Travel – Trauma – Triumph

Life is so precious. Over the last month, I have traveled hither and yon from West Palm Beach, Florida  to Morgantown West Virginia, Pittsburgh, Penna with Houston, Texas and Salt Lake City and ending Los Angeles before returning home to the desert TRAVEL Over the...
Where Have all the Flowers Gone? On Grief and Loss

Where Have all the Flowers Gone? On Grief and Loss

*(dedicated to Joshua Walker Oct. 15, 1980-July 22, 2019) This morning, July 27, 2019 actually 1:00 am California-time, 4:00 am Charlotte-time, I uncustomarily ordered coffee from room service and they brought me a pot of coffee and a single red rose. I realized...
Turn Wallops Into Lollipops: 6 Ways to Deal With Traumatic Events

Turn Wallops Into Lollipops: 6 Ways to Deal With Traumatic Events

This past month I have talked to many people whose hearts were hurting. A husband called worried about his wife who was swirling out of control with pills, alcohol and shopping. In the midst of this she forget to tend to her 1 year-old. Then a 48 year-old colleague of...